Derek Edward McVay

Derek Edward McVay died March 24, 2018 in the home he shared with his Fiancé of 7 years. Loving son of Maureen Deaton and (the late) Edward McVay. Beloved Fiancé of Traci Baatz. Most loving father of Stephanie (Sherman) Golden, Samantha McVay, Caitlin McVay, and most loving step-father of Tyler Baatz, Matthew Baatz and Angel Baatz. Cherished brother of Dana (Wendy) Sanner, Danette McVay, Doreen (Ken) McVay, and Darcy (Joe) Costa. Dear Uncle to Justin, Jennifer, Brandon, Heather, Jamie, Faith, and great uncle to CeCilia.
Derek graduated from Roseville High School in 1989 and worked in shops most of his life. He loved to make people smile and laugh, and was caring to everyone he met. He was a beautiful soul with a kind heart and a personality to match. He was immensely loved by all of those in his life and will be dearly missed.
There will be a private viewing (Immediate family only) on March 28th, 2018 at Gramer Funeral home in Shelby Township followed by cremation.
The family of Derek will be having a memorial service for friends and family in the coming months as a celebration of Derek’s life.

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  1. So very sorry for you loss. May you find comfort in the warmth of happy memories and the love of family and friends.

  2. Derek you made me smile quite a few times..on my journey. Rest in Peace my dear friend.

  3. I was saddened to hear of Derek’s passing. My prayers for him and your family during this difficult time. Remember that he will always be with you in spirit and keep your memories close. My sincerist condolences, may he Rest In Peace.

  4. Jo and Stan Boguslaw

    Rest in peace, brother. Our entire family is so saddened. My kids will miss their Uncle. Stan and I will miss one of our dearest, loving and faithful friends. We love you. <3

  5. Darcy Costa
    March 24 at 10:54pm · Macomb ·
    I am just completely heartbroken. My brother Derek Mcvay has passed away this afternoon. Our family is truly in mourning, and our mom is just devastated. Please keep us in your prayers. I’m at a loss, he’s been taken away too soon. Love you Derek, I will miss you so much

    Darcy Costa is with Derek Mcvay.
    Just missing my brother Derek Mcvay. I never realized how many things make me think of you, and now you’re always on my mind, forever in my heart. I love you and I’ll never forget all the memories. Rest easy

  6. Justin McVay
    March 24 at 10:33pm ·
    My uncle Derek McVay and I’s favorite drink together. Shots for you, R.I.P uncle Derek we all love and miss you so much. Heaven just gained a beautiful soul and amazing man. You are truly missed unk. I love you so much.

  7. Doreen McVay
    March 24 at 9:07pm ·
    Everyone that knows me knows that I usually don’t post my personal business on fb but I am at a loss rite now and am gonna ask for all my fb friends and family to please keep my family in ur prayers as my family is mourning the Loss of my brother Derek McVay….he passed suddenly this afternoon…I feel so empty rite now…and I feel such a deep pain for my Mom rite now…her heart is broken

    Doreen McVay
    March 27 at 8:07pm ·
    RIP. My sweet little brother…I miss u..but I will see u again one day!!! I luv u. Xxoo

  8. Traci Baatz (McVay)

    Traci Kirchoff Baatz
    March 25 at 12:49am
    Yesterday afternoon I lost my fiance and the love of my life Derek Mcvay :'( We had our share of ups and downs through the last 6 and a half years, but one thing that NEVER changed was our love for each other <3 He died in the home we shared for the last 5 and a half years, I tried to resuscitate him, but it was too late, he was already gone :'( I will miss our laughs, feeding the geese across the street from our house, our morning talks over coffee, the way he described us getting married and how he wanted "Lady" by Styx to be playing as I walked down the isle, our love and our laughter…I'll even miss him watching Jaws 1000 times and reciting it word for word every time it was on, and his need to watch ESPN in the mornings, even though I hated it! A part of me, my heart and my soul will forever be missing, because it will always be with him! I miss him so much already I can barely breathe 🙁 RIP babee! I will love you forever and always

    Traci Kirchoff Baatz is with Derek Mcvay.
    March 28 at 8:30am ·
    Today I will be saying my final physical goodbye to Derek Mcvay…my best friend, my partner, my future husband, and the love of my life
    🙁 Through all the good, all the bad, all the ups, all the downs…we never lost our love for each other, we always were there for each other no matter how hard things got! I will forever cherish the good and I have forgiven the bad…and that's what you do when you truly love someone! I miss him singing to me while we danced in the house, I miss our bonfires, feeding the geese across the street, drinking our morning coffee and talking, laughing so hard that my stomach hurts over the goofy things he would say and do to make me laugh, him being proud of me for being strong, for being a good mom, and a good person, lying in bed next to him every night, the way he would look at me with such love in his eyes before he kissed me, his gorgeous eyes, his beautiful smile, the way he would wink at me and mouth "I love you" from across the room, the dimple on his chin I loved to play with and how he would say, " I shaved for you baby cuz I know you like when I do"….I miss everything! Even in death, my love for him will live on! To everyone who has been so supportive and so kind via Facebook, calls, and texts…I thank you from my heart! Your care, love and concern means more to me than words can express!

    Traci Kirchoff Baatz
    April 3 at 10:53am ·
    I've been through so many deaths, I've helped so many of my family members to let go and go to heaven even though I've wanted them here! I have lost both my parents, my grandparents, great grandparents, my aunt, my nephew, friends…and none of it…combined…equals the pain i am feeling over the man I was in love with, the man I was supposed to grow old with, the man I made a home with and saw day in and day out 🙁 The pain is too much to handle, the emptiness is like nothing I have ever felt…I don't know how to do this :'( I love and miss you so much Derek McvayI don't know how to live without you!!!!

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